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With the LOA, people say you must feel like you already have what you desire. How do I do this? How do I experience the feeling of being with a person I want to attract to me?

Hey Reilly:

To understand how you would feel being with a person you want to attract to you starts off with knowing what you want. Unless you know what you want, you definitely can’t know what you feel.

Make a list of all the qualities you want in someone based upon what you appreciate now in life. It’s critical to know what you DON’T WANT as well, because, honestly, when it comes down to it — the good qualities are easy to take — it’s the bad qualities that we live with that we need to understand. What are you willing to live with? A person who leaves the toothpaste cap off and the tube all mangled? You see what I’m getting at (that is just an example). Make a list of the good qualities on one side of the page and then the negative qualities on the other side — the ones you don’t want, and this will help you to define what you do want.

After that create one list of the qualities of the person you want to be with (do you like to go camping, then put this on your list). Now, imagine what it would be like to be doing the things that you like to do (and are on your list) with someone who resonates with you and responds to you lovingly. Do you like to go to the zoo, dancing, what? List it all out and then imagine doing those things you love with the person.

Hold that feeling — and go to these places and do these things with yourself, keeping in mind things like, "it’s great knowing that I’ll be here with someone I love soon." The idea is to create a feeling within the body — the body is the one that needs to know what these feelings are so that it can send out the right vibes to the universe. Take yourself on dates, to the movies, wherever, and just feel good about it like you were with the person you want to be with. Start loving yourself in this manner, and it won’t be long…

Laurie

I used these same techniques in 1996 (before the SECRET) to draw my husband to me. It took me 3 months — there is no guarantee on how long it will take because it’s based on whatever beliefs you have about your own worthiness, etc. And by the way, my husband and I have been married 12 years and together 14. It was a match made in heaven.

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Do you know anyone who is skeptical about all this “Law of Attraction stuff”?  If you talk about it publicly, I am sure you do.  Maybe it is even you.

What is it you hear?

·         Oh, if the law of attraction worked I wouldn’t have all this bad stuff…this certainly isn’t anything I want!

·         I have been focused on getting rich all my life…and look where I am now…nope, this doesn’t work!

·         I am dying from this disease…I would never attract that!

·         And on and on and on…

Sound familiar?  Sound maybe too familiar?  Maybe these are words out of your own mouth.

Let’s take a look at the Law of Attraction in action.  Are you a sports fan?  Have you ever seen a quarterback who just can’t complete a pass, and the more he tries, the worse it gets?  Have you ever watched a golfer needing to hit across a water hazard reach into his bag a pull out a scarred “water ball” – and hit directly into the water?  Still with golf, have you ever seen a golf pro get “into a zone” and sink every putt he tries?  What the about the pitcher who can’t hit the strike zone, or the one who can’t miss?

Not into sports, well just listen to these Law of Attraction based phrases:

·         Bad things come in threes

·         Birds of a feather flock together

·         The worse it gets the worse it gets

·         If it weren’t for bad luck, she wouldn’t have any luck at all

·         Everything he touches turns to gold

These phrases and thousands more like them did not just come into our language by chance.  The sports examples above cannot all be coincidence.  These attraction based figures of speech and observations are evidence of the existence of the Law of Attraction.

Imagine how peculiar the Law of Gravity must have seemed when it was first observed.  Sure, apples fell from trees, but birds flew and boats floated.  When you dropped something, you could not predict with perfect accuracy where it would land.  When you shot an arrow, you knew that putting some arch in it actually increased the distance that it went.  What did all of this mean about gravity?  It simply meant that there were multiple forces at work, and while gravity always worked, the other forces influenced our observation of it.

So it is with the Law of Attraction.  Sometimes we really are not focused on what we say we are.  We may say we want money, but we are really focused on the lack of money (and so it is the lack of money that we get.)  Our attitudes, beliefs, concerns all effect how we observe the Law of Attraction.  That said, with sufficient analysis, there is simply no evidence that the Law of Attraction does not work.  Every single thing we have, we attract.

Maybe it’s time, as with gravity, that we stop resisting and start understanding.

Myril C Shaw
http://www.articlesbase.com/coaching-articles/the-law-of-attraction-for-skeptics-701578.html

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Several similar terms describe the central attribute of a character that decides on the strength of personality and the degree of inner freedom:

- “self assurance” describes mostly the behaviour. Counterparts are insecure behaviour or shyness.

- “self confidence” is the mental and emotional state that causes the outer appearance.

- “charisma” is the effect that those have on others.

Self confidence doesn’t mean being perfect or presenting oneself in a perfect way, but realizing and accepting own strengths and weaknesses, using strengths to reach aims and considering weaknesses as challenges, not insurmountable limits.

It can be observed that some children are by nature more actively exploring their environment than others. So possibly self confidence has a genetic foundation.

Still, all experiences that include social interaction, with parents, relatives, friends and classmates, influence the development of self esteem. Appreciation has a positive, rejection a negative effect. But unfortunately, it’s not that easy.

False or fake appreciation can often be observed with parents and relatives. For example the adoration of even the smallest output of infant creativity, like crude drawings, and other approvals of a child’s intelligence and appearance can lead to a situation of over-confidence. Undeserved rejection, on the other hand, like punishing or disregarding a child out of an own bad mood, will confuse it and create insecurity.

Over-confidence, or the belief in own abilities and performance that are not real, can lead to arrogance. This can either turn into insecurity, if the person later realizes the truth, or it turns into an inconsiderate behaviour, which also isn’t making life easier. Insecurity or shyness are very common burdens and they tend to create a lot of problems. Aside from lacking social and personal success, the constant fear of the own inferiority creates barriers that are hard to overcome.

So what’s the secret of how to give a child a healthy self-confidence?

- Be realistic with appreciation. If you feel you should commend your child for something, consider what would be the ability at its age and then evaluate the outcome. If it deserves appreciation, give it. If you have the feeling that your child is putting to much effort in getting your attention, try to get it back down to reality carefully. Love and appreciation shouldn’t be goods that can be bought.

- Don’t criticize or reject your child out of a bad mood. If you come home after a stressful day and your kid comes up with a picture, show some interest – it might mean a lot more to it than you think.

- Keep an eye on the influence your child is receiving from its friends. But if you have a bad feeling, try to talk to your child before you call the offender’s parents and ask for a restraining order.

- Don’t do things for your child if it’s afraid of something. It might be hard sometimes, but how should it learn to be independent if it can always hide behind its parents? Later on, it will lack the confidence that comes from the experience of having to do things on its own.

- Always be there to give advice if required. There’s a whole new world of complex social systems out there, and it’s easy to get lost. Remember when you were a child probably you can learn a lot from that.

Brigitte Meier
http://www.articlesbase.com/relationships-articles/building-your-parenting-self-confidence-74727.html